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We’ve composed a list of some of the lifestyle community lingo . I’m sure most of you seasoned vets probably already know most of these….For those of you who are new to all of this, we hope that this list is helpful. Let us know down in the comments which ones you’ve never heard of before.

Here’s a list of common swinger lingo and their definitions:

Swinger Relationship & Activity Terms

• MFM (Male-Female-Male) – A threesome with two men and one woman, usually with no male-male interaction.

• MMF (Male-Male-Female) – A threesome with two men and one woman, where male-male interaction may occur.

• FMF (Female-Male-Female) – A threesome with two women and one man, typically with no female-female interaction.

• FFF (Female-Female-Female) – A threesome or group play involving only women.

• MMM (Male-Male-Male) – A threesome or group play involving only men.

• Soft Swap – Engaging in sexual activities short of intercourse with another couple (e.g., kissing, touching, or oral sex).

• Full Swap – Engaging in full sexual intercourse with another couple.

• Same Room Play – When couples swap partners but remain in the same room.

• Separate Room Play – When couples swap partners and go into different rooms for privacy.

• Hotwifing – A dynamic where a husband enjoys watching or knowing his wife is engaging with other men, often without swapping.

• Cuckolding – A kink where a man enjoys his partner having sex with others, often with an element of submission or humiliation.

• Stag/Vixen – A relationship where a man (stag) enjoys watching his female partner (vixen) engage with other men but without the humiliation aspect of cuckolding.

Swinger Community & Social Terms

• Vanilla – Someone who is not involved in the swinger lifestyle or BDSM scene.

• Unicorn – A single, typically bisexual woman who is open to playing with couples. Highly sought-after in the lifestyle.

• Bull – A dominant, typically well-endowed man who engages with a hotwife or couple.

• Hall Pass – When one partner is allowed to play solo with others while the other abstains.

• Lifestyle (LS) – A general term for the swinger or non-monogamous community.

• Club Night – An event at a swinger club where couples and singles meet to socialize and potentially play.

• Munch – A casual, public meetup for lifestyle members to socialize without pressure.

Swinger Etiquette & Signals

• The Black Ring – Some swingers wear a black ring on their right hand as a discreet signal.

• Pineapple (Upside Down) – A symbol often associated with swingers, especially when seen on clothing or displayed on a cruise or in a home.

• “Are you in the lifestyle?” – A common way swingers discreetly ask if someone is part of the scene.

• Consent is Key – Swinger culture emphasizes mutual consent and communication before engaging in any activity.

More Swinger Lingo & Slang

Types of Swingers & Relationship Dynamics

• HWP (Height/Weight Proportionate) – A term often used in profiles to describe someone’s body type.

• Kik/KIK Group – Many swingers use the Kik messenger app to communicate and arrange meetups.

• LDR (Long-Distance Relationship) – Some swingers maintain long-distance connections with play partners.

• Polyamory (Poly) – Different from swinging, polyamory involves forming emotional and romantic relationships with multiple partners.

• Open Relationship/Marriage – A relationship where partners are free to engage with others sexually or romantically, but it may not involve swinging.

• Friends with Benefits (FWB) – A non-monogamous connection that includes sexual activity without a committed relationship.

Swinger Activities & Experiences

• Voyeur – Someone who enjoys watching others engage in sexual activities.

• Exhibitionist – Someone who enjoys being watched while engaging in sexual activities.

• Gangbang – A scenario where one person (typically a woman) engages with multiple men at once.

• Orgy – Group sex involving multiple people, often in an uninhibited party-like atmosphere.

• Hanky Panky Room (Playroom) – A private or semi-private area at a club or event designated for play.

• Take One for the Team (TOTFTT) – A term used when one partner isn’t fully attracted to another but engages out of courtesy to their partner’s interest.

Signals & Swinger Culture

• Red Bracelet (or Wristband) – Sometimes used at clubs or events to indicate interest in playing.

• Three-Way Handshake – A playful, discreet way some swingers greet each other to indicate lifestyle interest.

• “Play” – A common way to ask or discuss engaging in sexual activities with others. (“Would you like to play?”)

• Soft No – A polite way of declining without being harsh, often used to maintain positive vibes.

Swinger Etiquette & Rules

• Consent is Everything – Always ask before touching, joining, or assuming someone is interested.

• No Means No – Respect boundaries without pressure or guilt-tripping.

• Cleanliness & Protection – Safe sex is encouraged, and many events require recent STI testing.

• Respect Couples’ Dynamics – Some couples have strict rules (e.g., no kissing, only soft swap, or no separate room play). Always respect them.

• Don’t Assume Everyone is Interested – Just because someone is in the lifestyle doesn’t mean they want to play with everyone.

• Be Honest About Expectations – Misleading or lying about comfort levels leads to bad experiences.

• Discretion is Key – Many swingers are private about their lifestyle, so outing someone without permission is a big no-no.

Here’s a list of swinger-related sexuality terms that describe different preferences and dynamics within the lifestyle:

General Sexuality Terms in Swinging

• Heteroflexible – A person who is mostly straight but open to occasional same-sex experiences.

• Homoflexible – A person who is mostly gay but open to occasional opposite-sex experiences.

• Bisexual (Bi) – A person who is sexually attracted to both men and women.

• Pansexual – Someone attracted to people regardless of gender or sex.

• Sapiosexual – Someone who is sexually attracted to intelligence.

• Bicurious – Someone interested in exploring same-sex experiences but not sure about identifying as bisexual.

Swinger-Specific Sexuality Dynamics

• Straight Swap – When couples swap partners but only engage in male-female interactions.

• Bi-Swap – A swap where at least one person in the couple is open to same-sex play.

• Girl/Girl Play (G/G Play) – Female-female sexual interaction during a swap or group play.

• No Same-Room Bi (NSRB) – A term used when a man is bisexual but prefers not to engage with another man while their partner is present.

• Full Bi Male (FBM) – A man who is openly bisexual and comfortable engaging in same-sex activities.

• Full Bi Female (FBF) – A woman who is openly bisexual and comfortable engaging in same-sex activities.

• Soft Bi Male (SBM) – A man who is open to limited same-sex contact but not full sexual interaction.

• Soft Bi Female (SBF) – A woman who is open to limited same-sex contact but not full sexual interaction.

Non-Monogamous Relationship & Attraction Terms

• Demisexual – Someone who only experiences sexual attraction after forming an emotional connection.

• Polysexual – Someone who is attracted to multiple genders but not necessarily all.

• Asexual (Ace) – A person who experiences little to no sexual attraction but may still engage in relationships.

• Greysexual – Someone who falls between asexual and sexual, experiencing attraction only under specific circumstances.