Just The (Tip Tuesday)
Today’s Just The (Tip Tuesday) is about the importance of using a separate email, phone number and messaging apps for your lifestyle community related activities. It can go oh so wrong if your personal, work and swinger/lifestyle info were to get intertwined. Also make sure that you’re consistent with using the same username/screen name on anything LS related. It makes it easier for other like minded individuals, clubs, sites, and Apps to vet you. We’ve outlined some suggestions below. We will break this down more in future editions of Just The (Tip Tuesday).
Setting up a separate email and phone number for lifestyle activities is a great idea for privacy and discretion. Here’s why and how to do it:
Why Use a Separate Email & Phone Number?
1. Privacy Protection – Keeps your lifestyle activities separate from personal/work life.
2. Easier Organization – Helps manage lifestyle-related messages and event invites.
3. Discretion – Avoids accidental exposure (e.g., lifestyle contacts showing up in your work email).
4. Security – Reduces the risk of unwanted attention if a club, app, or forum experiences a data breach.
How to Set It Up:
• Email: Create a dedicated Gmail or ProtonMail account with a neutral username. Avoid using your real name.
• Phone Number: Use Google Voice, Burner, or a secondary SIM card for lifestyle communication. This keeps your primary number private.
Signal and Telegram can be very useful in the lifestyle community, especially for privacy and discreet communication. Here’s how they can help:
Benefits of Using Signal & Telegram in the Lifestyle
1. Privacy & Security
• Signal: End-to-end encryption by default, no message storage, and disappearing messages. Great for private conversations.
• Telegram: Offers secret chats with encryption and self-destructing messages (but regular chats aren’t end-to-end encrypted).
2. Separate Identity
• Both apps allow you to use a username instead of your phone number for messaging, keeping your real number private.
3. Group & Community Features
• Telegram: Many lifestyle communities, clubs, and event organizers have private groups and channels for discussions and event invites.
• Signal: Great for small, trusted lifestyle groups or one-on-one chats.
4. Disappearing Messages
• Both apps let you set messages to auto-delete after a set time, helping with discretion.
5. Avoids Social Media Linking
• Unlike WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger, these apps don’t automatically suggest contacts based on your phonebook.
Best Practices When Using Signal or Telegram for the Lifestyle
• Create a separate username instead of sharing your real phone number.
• Use disappearing messages for extra discretion.
• Be cautious about group privacy—some Telegram groups show member lists, so check settings.
• Avoid sharing identifying info in public groups or chats.
Kik Messenger is a popular app in the lifestyle community, especially for meeting new people and joining group chats. However, it has pros and cons compared to apps like Signal and Telegram.
Why Kik is Popular in the Lifestyle
✔️ No Phone Number Required – You sign up with just an email and a username, making it more anonymous than apps like WhatsApp.
✔️ Easy to Find Lifestyle Groups – Many swingers, couples, and lifestyle groups use Kik to chat, share pics, and plan meetups.
✔️ Discreet & Casual – You can chat without giving out your real identity, and it doesn’t link to your phone contacts.
✔️ Private & Ephemeral Chats – While it lacks true encryption, you can delete messages, and chats disappear if inactive for a while.
Kik’s Downsides for Swingers
❌ No End-to-End Encryption – Unlike Signal, Kik doesn’t offer strong encryption, meaning messages could be accessed if the app is compromised.
❌ Lots of Fake Profiles & Scammers – Since it’s easy to create anonymous accounts, be cautious about who you interact with.
❌ Limited Moderation in Public Groups – Some groups can be chaotic, and spam bots are common.
Best Practices for Using Kik in the Lifestyle
✅ Create a Lifestyle-Specific Username – Avoid using personal details in your Kik name.
✅ Join Trusted Groups – Get recommendations from reputable lifestyle communities rather than joining random groups.
✅ Be Selective with Sharing Media – Screenshots are possible, so only share what you’re comfortable with.
✅ Use Kik for Initial Chatting, Then Move to a More Secure App – Many people use Kik to vet potential partners before switching to Signal, Telegram, or a phone call.